I've gotten similar cards to this (or maybe the same one) before. This one is from Liz, the other submitter who I forget her name got it form a mother-in-law. It must be like a passive aggressive way of saying, "just because you married my son doesn't make you REAL family."
Lol. I'm pretty sure I got that one last year. I think it was accompanied by a snarky comment by my m-i-l, though.
ReplyDeleteoh, snap! Wow, what a way to say "thanks for tricking my son into marrying you, you bimbo!"
ReplyDeleteI read this as a card to your son and your son's transvestite partner.
ReplyDeleteThat is awesome! It reminds me of so many in-law relationships I know....
ReplyDeleteThough I do like Jeff's way of saying it. Too bad Hallmark doesn't make cards like that!
Yay! That's my passive aggressive MIL, and my finger!
ReplyDeleteExcept that the quotation marks are entirely necessary among those who choose to read the card in a non-snarky manner. A daughter-in-law is patently not a daughter, thus necessitating the marks in order to convey that the receiver is like a daughter to the parent-in-law. That so many seem to view the quotes as a put-down rather than a compliment seems to me a louder (and sadder) commentary on themselves than on the card company
ReplyDeleteI think the QMs are appropriate. It is more personal than "Daughter in Law" would be. It is clarifying that this woman accepts you as her daughter even though she did not have you emerge from her birth canal. I would be thrilled if my mom would send this to me, not the much mor passive aggresive ones that clearly state she does not count her as daughter, but daughter BY law ONLY.
ReplyDeleteMy first disagree.
we can always tell how "mom" is feeling about the relationship...when I get the ones to "daughter", I am in better stead than the ones to son and daughter-in-law, and way better than when they come to son and his wife!lol
ReplyDeleteHa! My husband and I got that same card from my in-laws! It cracked me up, because I know my mother-in-law really DOES think of me as a daughter, but the quotes really give a different impression...
ReplyDeleteMy husband's parents used to send him cards signed "Mom" and "Dad".
ReplyDeleteThey had a loving relationship with him, he looks way too much like both of them for them not to claim him as their son, and there was nothing else going on at the time that would justify the QMs either seriously or as a joke.
My grandma used to buy her cards at garage sales and thrift shops. No problem with that, of course, except that she would then alter the card to fit the recipient. "Happy Birthday, Daughter" with parentheses and (grand) slipped in between the words...
Kinfolk are a hoot sometimes.
Oh, snap, Christian! You sure told me!
ReplyDeleteIt's for the son and the other son, who's a pre-op.
ReplyDeleteI used to get cards like this from my ex-boyfriend's mother. I always found them very sweet. I had never thought of them as snarky, but I appreciate the humor and the misinterpretation. Wah.
ReplyDeleteHA!!! I think my Mom gave one like this to my husband except of course it said to my daughter and "son"!!
ReplyDeleteBut she loves him, really.. really.
I'm the one who sent you the other card (Karen), and I'm pretty sure she thinks more along the lines Jeff was mentioning... :)
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ReplyDeleteTo me it sounds as if the giver of the card is trying to "deal" with a trans-gender issue.
ReplyDeleteYou know like the daughter formerly known as Jeff...
I thought my mother and I had a great relationship until SHE got me this card! Hello, I AM your daughter -- no need for QMs!
ReplyDeleteI read this to be a card for your son and his partner that he hasn't married yet, but whom you already treat as your daughter.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely a pre-op thoughtful card. Although, I wonder if perhaps one of the givers refuses to acknowledge his son's pre op status and insists on son and the other giver is trying to be all hip and stuff so uses "daughter." So maybe the card is really for one person. Or maybe, it's post op, and someone is being catty. Hmmm.
ReplyDeleteHilarious! My mom used to get these all the time from my grandmother. It pissed her off endlessly.
ReplyDeleteBut I forgot to add...
ReplyDeleteHers said, "To my Wonderful Son and 'His Wife.'" Even more removed from the family, I guess.
I find this card really funny already.... but, why does it even exist? I have never heard of a mother giving a valentines card to her son and/or "daughter"
ReplyDeleteI know this is an old posting, but my MiL sends us these cards for every holiday. At least my mom buys the ones that say the real relationship of in-law.
ReplyDelete"I find this card really funny already.... but, why does it even exist? I have never heard of a mother giving a valentines card to her son and/or 'daughter'"
ReplyDeleteMy MIL does. Once she gave me lingerie, too, which I found kind of disturbing.